Friday, May 12, 2006

People Person

While sitting in the San Antonio airport a couple weeks ago, I turned to my boss and pointed out a FedEx cargo plane taxiing past the windows. "If I were gonna be a pilot, I think I'd rather fly one of those."

She looked at me strangely.

"Think of it," I said. "No passengers to deal with. You fly it where it needs to go. No backtalk."

"You're *such* a people person," she told me.

Another comment that's been echoing in my head is from a conversation I had with a fellow student a couple years back.

"You never let personal feelings get in the way of a decision," she told me.

I don't think she meant it as a compliment.

As I'm looking back over my last few posts, those comments have been taking on heavier weight.

Did anybody else notice that I didn't include time for family in my ideal schedule other than as an interruption? Somethings out of whack here.

Back to dark ponderings.


tinkerfaerie said...

I am a people person but there are times when I don't want to deal with anybody at all. People make me sick sometimes.

Nancy McKeand said...

Nate, I have to admit I hadn't noticed the lack of family, but I think this is kind of what Lesley and I were both trying to get at.

The big question, I guess, is how your family feels about this. If I were making up such a schedule for my day, it might look somewhat similar -- at least in terms of family involvement. But my kids are grown and my husband is used to my workaholic ways. And we find time for "us" on a regular basis, even if it doesn't appear on the schedule! But if your family feels something is missing, which I suspect they do from other things you have written, then there could be a problem.

Ponder to your heart's content. Just don't let it get too dark. And let us in on it from time to time, please.

But back to the cargo vs passenger plane, I think that anyone who flies would recognize that it would be a lot easier not to have to deal with passengers and all the possible related problems. I am definitely a people person, but I would never want to have to deal with airline passengers; I'd choose FedEx every time!

Nathan Lowell said...

Thanks Nancy.

This un-expurgated navel gazing actually IS helping .. altho I'm not sure with what?


Alice B. said...

Part of this may be your "roots." We Mainers tend to be pragmatic (bordering on cold) people. Especially when compared to the rest of the country. And some of us don't fuss too much over the kid-thing and that is not to say we don't love our kids; we just don't live our lives for and through them.

Barbara K said...

I always refer to myself as "antisocial" which either elicits a raised eyebrow or a nod in agreement depending on the audience. If we order our list of priorities in life and family and children are at the top and yet, we make no time for them, then something is askew, eh? Balance, balance, balance, my friend and don't be so harsh on yourself.

And naval gazing is good to a point-- I always get hung up on the lint.

Sarolta said...

I noticed it immediately, Nate. But then I also knew you'd realize it yourself in due time.

Understanding what is important to us, what makes us peaceful and content is essential if we want to introduce changes in our lives. But it's far from easy and it takes time. A lot of time. But it's worth the effort.